Breakup Season: Finding Your Way Back to You

By: Corrin Bogan, M.A.

March and April have become known, at least unofficially among Gen Z, as “breakup season.”

Something about spring—the sudden sunlight, the fresh air, the feeling that things are moving again—has a way of shaking us awake. It makes us notice what feels off. It makes us ask hard questions. It makes us brave enough to let go.

So if you're finding yourself heartbroken right now, in the quiet after a relationship ends, know this: you're not the only one. And more importantly—this is not the end of your story.

It might actually be the beginning of something better.

When Love Ends, the Search for Yourself Begins

There’s a particular kind of silence that comes after a breakup. The texts stop. The shared routines vanish. The playlists, the inside jokes, the comfort—all of it feels suddenly distant, like a movie you once loved but can’t quite watch anymore.

And in that silence, something even harder shows up: yourself.

Who are you without them?

It’s a question many people wrestle with after a breakup, especially if the relationship was long, intense, or defining. Sometimes we don’t realize how much of ourselves we handed over. The way we changed to keep the peace. The dreams we deferred. The parts of us we put on a shelf, thinking we’d come back for them later.

Now is later.

You Haven’t Lost Yourself—You’re Just Coming Home

Heartbreak hurts because love mattered. But it also opens space. Space to remember who you were before. Space to grow into who you’re becoming. Space to realize that maybe, just maybe, that relationship was never big enough to hold all of you.

This is the moment to come back to yourself.

Start with something small: go back to that coffee shop you loved before they came into your life. Revisit an old playlist. Wear the outfit that makes you feel most like you. Not you-in-a-relationship. Just you.

Little by little, those moments add up. You begin to feel less like you're breaking, and more like you're blooming.

The Truth About Healing

Healing isn't about pretending you're over it. It’s not about jumping into something new, or proving you're unbothered, or deleting every photo like it didn’t happen.

It’s about feeling the ache and still choosing to show up for yourself. It’s about learning from the pain—not to build walls, but to set boundaries. It’s about realizing that the best parts of love—connection, safety, passion, growth—don’t disappear when a relationship ends. They live in you. They always have.

Something better is around the corner. Not just a better relationship, but a better you—stronger, clearer, softer in the right places and sharper in others. Someone who knows how to protect their peace. Someone who trusts their own voice. Someone who isn’t afraid to begin again.

Let’s Find You Together

If you’re in the middle of a breakup and feeling lost, therapy can be a powerful place to land. Not to rush you through the pain—but to sit with it, make sense of it, and help you come home to yourself again.

You don’t have to go through this alone. And you don’t have to stay stuck in this chapter. Something new is waiting. So are you.